Sandlot

If you are reading this post, you must have seen the movie Sandlot! If you haven’t rent it! It’s about a bunch of neighborhood kids who get together everyday during the summer and play ball on a worn out field. One boy is new to the gang and knows next to nothing About baseball and gets laughed off the field. One of the other boys, who has the makings of a baseball legend, sticks his neck out and helps him out! It takes place in the all-American feel of the 1950’s.Anyway it’s a great story, but it is what I hope for with my kids! Finding a love and passion for something, a camaraderie of friends, and being the one who goes against grain for others for someone who does not fit in! Mr. English and I talk about love for others all of the time, but who knows what they do when we are not around or when they grow up! Or they are in service to others for recognition.

The Kid, two weeks ago, came home and told me that she received an award that is given out to students who are seen doing good! If you get ten of them, you get a prize from the principal! Well, being that the Kid is the kind of girl who likes to follow all of the rules and win awards, she gets very proud when she is honored for something:) I asked her what she did to get the award. She said that there was a girl who was new to the school and so the Kid decided to show her around school and let her know where everything is. I was impressed, not surprised though! I asked if the principal (the one who gave her the award) saw her giving the girl a tour….she said no she told her! I know it sounds like I’m hard on my kids, I’m not really…this is me just talking about it with you:) I told her that I was proud of her for finding the need and filling it!

I do hope that even though she loves helping others and receiving recognition, that the desire to help wins out over the latter:) What similar qualities are you trying to foster in your kids?

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Picture Day!

Today the Kid had picture day at school. She said she wanted her hair straight and wanted to wear a dress. She did not have a dress that was clean (don’t worry, I’m doing laundry while typing), so we went with a cute grey shirt from Forever 21….did you know that they had a little girls section? She wore it with sparkly grey tights and a lace purple skirt…I know you can only see her shirt in the picture, but she looked cute! I also straightened her hair :)While walking up to the classroom, I asked her how she was planning on smiling…she smiled her fake pose smile, and I said “looks great!” She said “remember how you said that I have a fake smile when I’m taking a picture? Well, is it that smile?”

Ugh! Breaks my heart!

I made her feel insecure, less than perfect…me! Her mom, the one who is supposed to assure her that she is beautiful and enough! So I told her, “you look beautiful, no matter how you smile! When I said that before, it was because when I see you smile naturally through joy or excitement, it makes my heart swell. It’s infectious and it makes people want to be around you, so they can feel that joy too! This smile is just as beautiful…it’s just that you are thinking about smiling, so it is missing that joy! Try thinking of something funny or something that makes you happy and then smile. If it comes out forced, I will still love it and show it to everyone!” With that she gave me one of her glorious smiles and said “Mom, I love you!”